On Parenting and a Prayer
Parenting. It's a huge responsibility and a weighty role. It's beautiful and tumultuous. Everywhere you look, there is someone -- an "expert," an experienced parent, and an opinionated person -- telling you the best way to to do it. Is there one best way? Heaven knows, but you probably don't and neither do I.
Every person, every baby, every mother, every father, every boy, and every girl is unique and beautifully so. We all have some of the same basic needs, but they show up in such an infinite spectrum of ways. It's amazing, and infuriating.
I'll be sharing a lot of our parenting story here, and as I do, my heart is simply to share. I have found much hope, courage, and Jesus in the ups and downs of being a mother. He's given me great confidence, not that I have it all figured it - but that I have all that it takes (Jesus) inside of me. I'm not here to tell you how to do it. Formulas are not my thing. Sharing the journey, and the resources and ideas that have been life-giving to our family, is my thing. As I do so, please always know that I have only love for my fellow journeyers (parent or not). This is a judgement free, grace-drenched, prayer-filled, Spirit-sensitive place. I'll trust that this sentiment will be mutual.
I was recently reading through Philippians 4:6-9 in the Message, and I longed for the words to mark my life. After some conversations about parenting, I happened upon the words again and they touched my mama heart. I wrote a prayer adapted from the passage.
Jesus, We choose you over our worries about our children and our parenting. We ask that all the worries that dart into our minds be reshaped into thoughts of you and praises for how beautifully and uniquely you've made each of your children. We praise you that you've put all of Yourself inside of us, and that You are our Source. We bring our concerns and our dreams for our sons and daughters to your feet. Thank you for turning our confused and scared-to-mess-this-up minds into places of wholeness and trust, as we walk in certainty that you are bringing everything together for good. Settle us into You. Be our center, displacing our worries with wonder at your beauty and faithfulness.
Fill our mothering and fathering with all that is true, noble, reputable, authentic, compelling, and gracious. Help us to see and draw out the best in our children, and ourselves. Give us eyes to see beauty, not ugliness, and things to praise, not things to curse. Work our families into the most excellent of your harmonies. Amen.